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HSLDA's Homeschooling Thru High School Newsletter --June 2010

HSLDA's Homeschooling Thru High School Newsletter -- June 2010
June 2010 Newsletter

Life Preparation 101

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Dear Friends,

For many of you, the school year is winding down, and your teens are
finishing those last few assignments. Do you think they know that you
look forward to summer as much as they do? As you enjoy a brief break
from your teaching routine, the summer months may be a good time to
think about life skills to teach your teens in preparation for

Although many of our newsletters focus on academic skills, we'd like
to branch out and suggest areas that go beyond the schoolwork. No
matter what avenue your teens plan to travel, teaching these skills
during the high school years will be useful.

Home and Car Maintenance

Both young men and young ladies will benefit from learning the basics.
Simple meal planning and cooking, grocery shopping, sorting laundry,
ironing, sewing on a button, as well as lawn care and changing furnace
filters are among the many skills that can be taught.

If your teen is headed off to college in the future and will live off
campus, learning about renter's insurance, negotiating lease
agreements, and contacting utility companies may also be useful.

Maintaining a car in good repair (changing the oil, changing a flat
tire, and replacing bulbs and windshield wipers) not only teaches good
skills, but also has the potential of saving your teens money by doing
these tasks themselves rather than paying someone else to do them.
When your car insurance bill comes due, read over the terms and
conditions with your teen and explain words such as deductibles,
comprehensive and collision coverage, and property and bodily injury

Financial Management

As your teen works part-time jobs and receives monetary gifts, does he
apply good money sense in spending, saving, investing, and giving to
the Lord's work? For some teens, financial management comes naturally,
but for others it is an area that must be taught. Helping your teen to
set up a simple budget, open a checking account, and even take a stab
at investing are all good first steps in managing finances. In
addition, if you are courageous, you can give your teen a set monetary
amount to cover his expenses (medical, wardrobe, entertainment,
incidentals) and let him take responsibility for these costs. This
plan will give him practice living within such a budget and
appreciation for what you have provided for him.

Health Care

Some of you may complete courses in health and first aid during the
high school years; but if not, then you may want to be sure that your
teen learns key facts in these areas. Many hospitals and community
centers give CPR and first aid courses for nominal fees or for free.
Chat with your teens about good nutrition, exercise, and preventative
medicine. Health insurance and medical co-operatives such as Samaritan
Ministries are good subjects to include in
conversations as well as terms such as co-pays, referrals, HMOs, etc.
As your teen reaches 18, you may want him to take the major
responsibility for making his own doctor appointments, setting up a
fitness plan, or checking on immunizations needed for college
acceptance or employment.

Job Preparation

At some point in time your teen will most likely need to find a job!
Help her to create a resume, learn how to network, explore the job
market for various vocations, and make an effort to increase her
marketable skills. Take time to role play good interviewing techniques
and to have your teen write out answers to the inevitable job
interview questions such as: what are your strengths and weaknesses,
what are your long-term goals, and why should I hire you?

Time Management

Your teen will never outgrow the need to manage her time wisely, so
give her opportunities during high school to take charge of this area.
This can include keeping a personal calendar to plan and prioritize
activities such as schoolwork, social life, part-time job, hobbies,
community service/volunteer work, plain old fun, and more. Start off
slowly by working with your teen to structure her day, then her week,
and then her monthly time. You may want to make your teen responsible
for coordinating rides to her activities, planning a family outing,
and completing job or college applications. She will quickly realize
that these things don't just happen, but time must be set aside in
order to accomplish them.

Emotional Preparation

Someone once said that a parent is constantly trying to work himself
out of a job! In a good sense, give yourself to providing your teen
with the skills he will need to handle more and more situations with
more and more responsibility. In other words, try not to be a
helicopter parent (one who hovers)!

For example, if your teen experiences problems on his part-time job,
resist the urge to call his boss and straighten things out. Instead,
encourage him to think of various options for dealing with the
situation, and then help him lay out a plan to follow a chain of
command to resolve the problem.

If conflict arises between your teen and a friend, stay involved with
the situation by praying for your teen and encouraging him to seek
biblical counsel. Encourage him to take the necessary steps toward
reconciliation so he'll learn to confront issues straight on rather
than pushing them aside.

Is your teen comfortable in asking other adults for help when needed?
If he is making life decisions (such as college, tech school, or
vocational school), will he seek out the counsel of others with

Spiritual Preparation

It's a big world out there! If your teen's next step is college, the
workforce, or the military, chances are that he will encounter people
who have vastly different values and lifestyles than those modeled in
your home. Wisely expose (using much discernment!) your teens to
people and issues that will cause him or her to clarify beliefs and to
respond graciously. Talk about the necessity of regular quiet times
for Bible study and prayer, the benefits of godly friendships, and the
challenge of standing alone if need be. Lead your teen to think
through various ways to positively impact those who disagree with him,
how to suggest alternatives to activities that would violate his
principles, and how to remain faithful while events and others pull
him in an ungodly direction. Encourage him not to be ashamed of the
gospel of Christ but to be ready in season and out to give a word for
the hope that is within.

The high school years provide many occasions to guide your teens in
appropriate interaction with the opposite sex. The earlier the
better--before emotions enter the picture! Communicate with your teens
the values that are important as they relate to others. Talk about
their thoughts on choosing a spouse (perhaps listing character traits
they desire in a mate), seeking and listening for God's direction, and
holding fast to their convictions.

A Little Here a Little There

Using the checklist below will help you to assess what has already
been learned, and then to lay out some reasonable goals for teaching
other skills important to your teen. Your ability to instruct will
ultimately be dependent on how willing your teen is to learn. Use good
judgment and ask the Lord for His insight and direction. Timing is
everything! Maturity doesn't happen overnight, but trust that the Lord
is at work in your teens' minds and bodies to bring them along into

Next month, join us as we talk about the joy of passing on your family
legacy to the next generation.

Always learning new skills,

Becky Cooke and Diane Kummer
HSLDA High School Coordinators

Life skills checklist and resource guide

Time management resources

Financial management resources

Job Preparation Resources

Parent/Teen Resources

Quote of the Month

"While the world applauds achievement, God desires companionship."
Joanna Weaver

Becky & Diane's speaking engagements

Network of Iowa Christian Home Educators, Des Moines, IA (Diane)
June 18-19, 2010

Valley Home Educators - Modesto, CA (Becky)
July 30-31, 2010

Map Your Future - Indianapolis, IN (Becky & Diane)
October 22, 2010

MACHE - Duluth, MN (Becky & Diane)
April 14-16, 2011

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